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Anxiety: Part Six of a Zillion

This is the last post I’ll write on anxiety for a while because quite frankly it’s boring as hell for people who can’t relate and for the people who already deal with anxiety, talking about it this much just makes it worse. Ha! Right? Totally.

So now what? After learning about my predisposition to anxiety and the life circumstances that contributed to the imbalance, how do I go about managing this thing?

  1. I live with love. And when I don’t, I make it right as soon as possible, and I learn from it. Our days are full of distractions but once night comes and all we have left is ourselves, our wrongdoings will burn into the back of our closed eyelids like flashing alarms, keeping us fitfully awake. We need to make them right, forgive others, forgive ourselves, and accept the grace that comes with a peaceful night’s sleep.
  2. I hold onto truth. Whenever anxiety tells me irrational things, I speak truth back louder, and fiercer. And if anxiety won’t listen to me then I find someone else to speak truth into my life, and I hold onto them, while they hold onto truth.
  3. If I get too exhausted and worn down to hold onto truth, then I see my therapist and/or my doctor for professional help and medication. Because sometimes, despite doing the best I can with what I am given, life gets a bit too turbulent and I can’t move for the amount of seawater I’ve gulped down. Once I am able to stay afloat and store up some energy, I am able to go out on my own again.
  4. I face my phobias, and I move through them. Anxiety and phobias thrive on avoidance. Each time we avoid something because we are scared of it, the fear grows just that much bigger and before too long, we’re stuck like deer in headlights. Write down a list of all the things that scare you and then start doing them. It’s petrifying, but it works. Not unlike drinking Buckley’s cough syrup.

Anyway, so that’s all I’ve got, really so far. I guess what we all need to remember though is that life by its very nature is a struggle and anything we get stuck with whether it’s anxiety or depression or acne or cancer or egg salad sandwiches can really isolate us from others and honestly, that’s like the worst thing ever.

We are built for connection, for communion. Anxiety wants us to stay home alone to eat our belly button lint and cry over Disney movies. Don’t.

Make your scary list, grab a friend’s hand and start crossing that shit off.

xo

Love Suzy

 

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  • Susie @ SuzLyfe October 13, 2015, 4:18 am

    I think learning to live with love is HUGE. The fact that you love yourself for your mistakes, you try to make them right when you can. Those are all huge. What helped me with regards to guilt (which can fester with anxiety) was asking myself the question if it came from what I thought was a place of truth: if I believed in my body and soul at the time that it was the right thing to do.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 8:08 am

      Yep, you nailed it Suz. A feeling is just a feeling, not a truth. Just because I feel something doesn’t mean it’s true and it’s so important that I self-check to make sure that what I’m doing IS based on truth, or if I’m being irrational <--- 99% of the time.

  • Megan @ Meg Go Run October 13, 2015, 5:19 am

    Man I like your idea of making a scary list! I think that would be a good question to ask Paul too! I would wonder what he is scared to do…

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 8:07 am

      I’m actually scared to make a scary list right now because then that would mean that I have to start doing scary things. And I’m scared. LOL

  • Jamie October 13, 2015, 7:25 am

    I am so good at avoiding my phobias and anxieties.. because if I avoid them, they’ll just go away and not fester and explode at a later, most likely more inappropriate time? Definitely something I have been working on…

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 8:06 am

      Ha ha ha… I totally relate. I stuff whatever is bothering me in hopes that it’ll go away. Sometimes they do go away or even die down a bit though! So it can be tricky. It’s good to talk about stuff but not every little tiny thing. A good balance would be nice! Now if I only I could get that! Ha ha ha.

  • Laura @ This Runner's Recipes October 13, 2015, 7:36 am

    The avoidance thing is so, so true. I don’t have anxiety, but I can get incredibly, almost paralyzing anxious about bad things happening, whether it’s a terrorist attack, freak accident, natural disaster, or shooting. But I’ve learned that I can’t stop seeing movies, traveling, going hiking, anything, just because I’m scared of that off chance.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 8:05 am

      I think that’s normal, and it sounds like you’re able to talk yourself off the cliff, so to speak, on your own. And then like you said you don’t stop seeing movies, traveling, etc. That’s perfect! As it should be.

  • Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets October 13, 2015, 10:37 am

    I’ve very much enjoyed this series and everything you’ve had to say on this topic. That’s all. I just wanted you to know that.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 3:27 pm

      Well thank you for telling me, miss awesome herself! xo

  • Heather@hungryforbalance October 13, 2015, 11:58 am

    These are all such great tips! I have been trying to focus on living in the present instead of constantly freaking out about what might happen in the future.
    I understand why you are going to take a break from the posts, but I want you to know just how much I have appreciated them! Thank you!!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 3:27 pm

      Oh hey, no problem at all!

  • heather October 13, 2015, 12:21 pm

    Your posts are not boring they are actually quite entertaining. I suffer from anxiety and have a hard time dealing with it. I just try to make my life as easy as possible which has helped a lot. thanks
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    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 13, 2015, 3:27 pm

      Oh, that’s a good point. When life gets out of control here I usually do my best to simply as much as I can and that usually helps!

  • Julia @ Lord Still Loves Me October 18, 2015, 12:16 pm

    I’m so going to make a scary list! Thank you for your transparency here. This is my first time on your blog, but I’m gonna stick around!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com October 18, 2015, 1:13 pm

      Ohhhh, I’m so glad you’re here! Yay! I think that the next time I write about anxiety, I’ll ask people to write down one thing on their scary list, and then do it and then check back a week later or something. It sounds like a neat little project, I think!

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