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Christianity vs Homosexuality = Lonely

There’s just so much energy birthed by the legalization of gay and lesbian marriages. I’ve got a lot of Christians in my Facebook and Instagram feeds that are acting like assholes. Gay and lesbians act like assholes too, of course. We all do. We’re all human, and we’re all assholes. But there’s just something so extra asshole about Christians posting shit about how being gay is a sin but Jesus loves us anyway.

They shove homosexuality into the same cell as drug use, pornography, cheating on your spouse, lust, gossip, gluttony and greed. But they do it passive aggressively. It feels sneaky. If I were a lesbian, I’d feel like shit. And not because I did anything wrong, but because I’d be made to feel like I don’t belong.

Humans are created for communion, for togetherness, and whether or not we support the new law, we all want to belong. If we are gay, we want to belong. If we are Christians, we want to belong. We need to be a part of something, and we need to feel accepted.

If I’m a Christian, I will cling to other Christians and their culture. A lot of Christians believe that being gay is a sin, so many Christians feel like if they stand up for their beliefs then they will belong more to their group of people. That sense of connectedness becomes more fulfilling. In the name of “love” they hurt gay people but the cost is worth it because it draws them closer to other Christians.

If I’m a lesbian, I too need to belong and feel accepted and because I know I am not welcomed in the Christian circle, I will cling harder to my group of people.

Blowing out another person’s flame won’t make ours shine any brighter. So let’s just agree to disagree on oh, I don’t know, religion and sexuality and whether or not we eat meat or if we load the motherfucking toilet paper with the paper bit coming out from the top or the bottom. And let’s just be together because we’re human. We have heartbeats and emotions and sometimes our armpits get a bit stinky. Some of us chew too loud or listen to One Direction or Steven Curtis Chapman. Or we sing in gay bars or we eat chicken that didn’t get to run in a fucking field somewhere for its entire 6 months of life. We live. We breathe. We are.


Judgement separates us from each other. I say we crucify the judgment, and put a rainbow sticker on it.

Love Suzy xo

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  • Susie @ SuzLyfe June 30, 2015, 4:20 am

    People like to fight and vilify what they don’t “understand.” Well, maybe if we attempted to understand each other, or accept the fact that we can’t understand, we might find some peace.

  • Erin@BeetsPerMinute June 30, 2015, 4:41 am

    This is too great. Couldn’t have said it better myself. I honestly feel like I have to invest in a t-shirt or handbag sized sign that says, “stop right there.” to hold up whenever I start hearing judgmental shit. And yes, we’re all capable of being assholes, and I was a judgmental little witch for most of my life, and I’m ashamed of that. However, it’s so freeing now to not be concerned and just let people be who they are, and really get it through my head that it’s of little consequence to me how another person chooses to live. Although, I definitely give people who litter my two cents and say something, because c’mon, it’s totally unnecessary to not put the trash in the bin. 🙂

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2015, 7:14 am

      Oh, totally. There’s this lady on YouTube, have you seen her? Who stands at the corner of some huge intersection I think somewhere in New York or some big city like that, and whenever someone throws garbage out of their car, she picks it up and whips it right back at them while they’re sitting in their cars. There’s like, full cups of Coke and cold coffee being thrown back inside of super fancy cars and stuff. I haven’t seen the videos but I’ve heard of them. I need to look it up. It sounds wonderful lol.

  • Rica @ Yoga Mat Monkey June 30, 2015, 6:35 am

    As a reformed rigid thinker, I thought I knew what was right for everyone — based on the biblical standard. But I have evolved to see my own asshole-ish ways, and I now know this: I know nothing.
    I love your statement:
    Blowing out another person’s flame won’t make ours shine any brighter.
    Thanks for this insightful read. 🙂

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2015, 7:19 am

      My dad has that flame quote on the bottom of his emails. It’s always been a favourite of mine.

  • Laura @ This Runner's Recipes June 30, 2015, 7:04 am

    Amen to all this. Community is what binds us and our common humanity should transcend all else. I just want to shake all the hyper-judgmental Christians I know. Don’t judge your neighbor for the speck in their eye when you’ve got a log in your own, and here’s the thing: none of us are God. We’ve all got something that someone else could judge us on. So like you say, let’s stop being judging a-holes and just be compassionate. At the root of it all, Christianity should be about compassion, not judgment.
    Sorry for the rant; like you, I was frustrated at all the alienating judgment I saw on Facebook from some people.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2015, 7:25 am

      Yes, and when we make statements like these, the Christians who post that stuff come back at us with the idea that they are set apart from the rest of the world because of their supposed high moral standards and you know what? I don’t think Jesus meant for them to be set apart by behaving like this, but rather by behaving with love. This could have been an opportunity for humans to come together despite religious or cultural differences, and yet so many Christians totally screwed that up. But keep in mind, I know a tonne of Christians that aren’t judgmental and who are accepting and loving of everyone, and who are happy for the people that are able to celebrate this new law. I hope nobody feels like I’m slamming Christianity. Not at all. I’m slamming humans, because we sometimes totally screw up and I know this because I am at the top of the list of assholes.

  • Jamie June 30, 2015, 7:11 am

    “Blowing out another person’s flame won’t make ours shine any brighter”… beyond true and something I think we can apply this to EVERY day life. Thanks for sharing : )

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2015, 7:27 am

      I still get caught up in the idea that by bringing somebody else down that I make myself look better. But time and time again, even if it’s fun in the moment, it makes me uglier. Yuckier. And then the crappier I feel about myself, the more that I feel like I have to keep criticizing people, and on and on it goes until I find myself completely alone. We are all human, we all make mistakes, and we all need to show each other grace and we learn and grow and move through this world!

  • Maddie @ Dixie Runs June 30, 2015, 7:47 am

    AMEN!!! All the time we waste fighting about who is right and who is wrong is precious time that we can spend just being together and celebrating whatever it is you believe instead of trying to force your beliefs on others. Love love love this.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2015, 8:05 pm

      Thanks Maddie. I completely agree with you.

  • Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets June 30, 2015, 11:27 am

    Um the toilet paper totally needs to come from the top. I agree with everything else. Rainbow sticker away.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2015, 8:03 pm

      Totally from the top. I don’t just get judgmental about that, no. I get homicidal.

  • Allison July 1, 2015, 3:26 am

    Love this. I’m Catholic, but I don’t try to push my beliefs on others. I also don’t give a fuck about who anyone wants to marry – it’s not my business, it’s not my life! I also believe that everyone needs to find their own happiness – gay, straight, crazy cat lady, WHATEVER. People need to get over their shit and let other people lead their lives. We have a separation of church and state for a reason. Gay marriage should have always been legal – it’s not my job to choose for someone else or tell them what’s right and wrong. If you want my religious perspective, it’s not my place to judge anyone. The religious people walk around saying homosexuality is a sin but okay, want to go there? Judging others is a sin, too. I think being a good christian means loving others, accepting others, and being kind to everyone. But that’s just my two cents.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com July 1, 2015, 8:51 am

      I’d love to be a crazy cat lady. Can you imagine if we had parades? We’d all dress up in polyester pants and push our cats around in buggies.

  • Jessica @ VEGGIE RUNNING MOMMA July 3, 2015, 4:46 pm

    So true. I’ve always thought, if you really sat down and talked with someone, there wouldn’t be a two people who didn’t like each other. Like REALLY talked. If you knew the other person’s story. a gay and a Christian would get along. Judgment is just keeping it apart.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com July 3, 2015, 7:52 pm

      I completely agree with you. I think as humans we are created for connection so it’s natural and right for us to draw close to each other and relate to each other. It’s shit like insecurity and fear that breeds judgement, which keeps us isolated and grows hate.

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