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I’d say I’m a pretty open-minded person but that can be taken one of two ways: open-minded where we let bad shit in (no boundaries) or open-minded where we let good shit in (healthy boundaries). The difference between bad shit and good shit is, of course, subjective, which makes it very difficult to determine if having an open mind is going to be helpful or hurtful.


The line that I use to differentiate between bad shit and good shit is in the form of a question: Is my acceptance of this issue/person/whatever going to be toxic to myself and my family? If yes, then it’s bad shit. If no, then it’s good shit.

I don’t care if you can only orgasm if you’re dressed up like a chicken because it doesn’t affect me. In fact, you’d probably get way more drink and appy invites from Andrew and I because well, that’s awesome. If you’re a Christian, a Buddhist, gay, lesbian, vegan, don’t shave your armpits, give all your money to Santa Clause, have a memorial service for your goldfish, eat your foot callouses, whatever. Don’t care.


I care about stuff like wearing hats inside our house and at the dinner table, because it shows disrespect, and my family is my treasure and all of us deserve to be respected. I care if someone throws trash out the car window. If I am standing at a stop light when this happens, I will pick up the trash and whip it right back through the open window.

Other than that, I don’t know. We’ve all got our stories, our idiosyncrasies, our quirks. Our passions, beliefs, and faiths. Life is better when we can slide into place beside one other, fitting perfectly along the edges and curves, the scars and wounds, the rough patches, the smooth ones.


Would you classify yourself as open minded? Where’s your line?

Have you ever had an English Mastiff?

Chloe was my sister from another mother (my BFF Jane). We loved the hell out of each other. <3


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  • Megan @ Meg Go Run May 11, 2016, 6:31 pm

    Yes! I am very open minded! Live your own life, let your freak flag fly. One thing I am becoming increasingly closed minded about: GUNS. I think they should all be wiped off the face of the earth. Oh but what about the poor responsible gun owners? Sorry. Don’t care. I care about the massive amounts of gun violence in our country. So that is one thing I am closed minded about, but at least I admit it!!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 11, 2016, 8:27 pm

      I can’t tell you how many fights Andrew has started on Facebook regarding American gun laws. I read out your comment to him and he said word for word, “That’s not closed-minded at all–that’s the first American I’ve heard speak common sense on the topic.” LOL oh boy. So yeah, you’ve got a place to stay if you come to Vancouver.

      • Megan @ Meg Go Run May 12, 2016, 5:17 am

        Here in America, I am what’s known as a left wing liberal nut. 🙂 Unfortunately, I don’t think our gun laws are going to change much. A few years ago, a psychotic 20(ish) year old busted into an elem. school in MA and killed a whole class of 1st graders. FIRST GRADERS. So yeah, if people care more about their precious “right” to own a gun is more important than a classroom of dead 6 year olds, I don’t think any argument I make is going to get through their head.

        • Megan @ Meg Go Run May 12, 2016, 5:19 am

          Oh and can Paul and I and the cats use you guys as a back up if Trump is elected president? My friend Heather in Nova Scotia promised to take us in, but I could use a back up just in case Christmas and Jelly don’t get along with her shitzu.

          • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 12, 2016, 7:09 am

            Yes for sure, as long as we can send all of our kids to Heather in Nova Scotia.

  • Chris May 11, 2016, 8:31 pm

    My default is closed-minded but I’m working on it… trying to focus on things and people that matter not on issues that divide. I’m fine with guns, but they’re not much of an issue where we are- good clean & responsible family fun. Disrespect is a big one with me; and I’m all for protecting people who can’t protect themselves, physically and otherwise.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 12, 2016, 7:12 am

      CHRIS! I don’t think you’re close-minded at all. How could you be if you read MY stuff?!?! Ha ha ha. Anyway, I think you’re close-minded about all the right things, and I love how you just live it out without shoving down anyone’s throats. I respect you a whole lot.

  • Lisa @ Running Out Of Wine May 12, 2016, 1:54 am

    I think I am opened minded in that I can always see both sides to a situation. Sometimes this can be to a fault really, and I have a hard time making decisions. Like you, there are some things that I care about because they affect me or others in a more direct way. But for the most part everyone should do what makes them happy!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 12, 2016, 7:11 am

      Oh, I could see how hard it would be to make decisions if you’re too open-minded! I think that’s a better problem to have though than being a douche.

  • Susie @ SuzLyfe May 12, 2016, 4:04 am

    Alex’s best friend growing up had an English Mastiff called Duke that was the sweetest thing until he turned 2 and then he went positively evil. That is a massive thing to have turn on you…
    I say do you, but don’t interfere with me. If I don’t care for what you are doing, I probably just won’t be your friend. My deal breaker is that I have to respect you as a person. Otherwise I literally can’t even deal with you.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 12, 2016, 7:10 am

      Yep, sounds about right.

  • Laura @ This Runner's Recipes May 12, 2016, 8:38 am

    I think I’m fairly open-minded but I don’t like things shoved down my throat. I will respect others’ choices and opinions, just please respect mine and others’ as well. I love how you throw trash at people – littering infuriates me also.
    I LOVE mastiffs and wish we could own one. It’d be like a super-size Charlie. And Charlie thinks he’s a big dog and loves big dogs, especially when big dogs chase him.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 12, 2016, 11:55 am

      I haven’t actually picked up trash and thrown it at anyone, but the idea alone excites me to no end. I think Charlie needs a mastiff brother.

  • Ange // Cowgirl Runs May 12, 2016, 3:01 pm

    I’m open minded until I’m not.
    Everyone gets the benefit of the doubt from me a few times, but if you hurt me or my friends? OH HELL NO. But, for the most part, you do you, bro.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 12, 2016, 9:49 pm

      I think we’ve all hurt people we love, in some capacity or another, that’s the thing. Humans are complete fuckups, yo. But I draw the line when someone can’t take responsibility for their own actions, when they lay blame on everyone else because it’s easier, lazier, to point fingers than to step up, clean up, and change. When they deflect, transfer and force their own lives onto others out of fear. I don’t have room in my life for fear.

      I love your strength, Ange. It must be a Calgary thing. <3

  • Nikki @ will run for pizza May 14, 2016, 8:52 am

    I’m a LOT more open minded than I used to be! Being raised so religious made me VERY closed – minded, but as I got away from where I grew up, and met Phil, went to other churches, that all changed. I mean, I’m still spiritual and Jesus is still my homeboy, but I’ve learned that HE’S pretty open minded actually…I mean, he just loves PEOPLE. period. He didn’t focus on these stupid issues that we all fight over and get harsh over. He spoke truth, he loved. Period. What matters in life, is how you treat and love people, life, animals…

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 14, 2016, 9:09 am

      I think our world views line up pretty damn close. I think we grew up a lot of the same ways.

  • Ali @ Hit the Ground Running May 14, 2016, 9:10 am

    I love this post. I think I draw my line at whether or not someone’s views or tolerances seek to oppress or hurt others. I’m open-minded to anything and everything except beliefs and actions that undermine the humanity and freedom of others.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com May 14, 2016, 9:12 am

      That pretty much sums it up! Thanks Ali!!!!

  • Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets May 15, 2016, 6:32 am

    I’d say I’m fairly judgement free. Everyone has their own story, their own tale to tell, their own unique spin on things and I think that’s wonderful. We’d be boring if we all thought alike. To each their own so long as they’re not hurting anyone.

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