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I Am the Milky Way

I know I have way more pictures of Callum than I do of any of my other kids but I promise it’s not because he’s my favourite (in fact, he’s on the lower end of the ladder at the moment). And yes, parents do have favourites and if they ever tell you that they don’t, they’re lying. The thing though, is that favourites shift around. It’s never one favourite forever–oh no no no. Everyone knew I was the favourite for a long time and then when I hit the teenage years, I became one huge disappointment. My sisters would have church parties at the house when they were in high school while I was sneaking out my bedroom window to get felt up and alcohol poisoning. Then I got my shit together, married Jason, had kids, and went back to being the star. And well, I’ll have to save the rest of that story for my book, or a courtroom. Whichever comes first.

So, for anyone that’s new here, Callum is 3 years old and he’s hilarious. He just learned about private parts! Boys have penises and girls have vaginas. Except he was saying “peenjina” for a while until I got him to say “pajina.” My Instagram story from this afternoon is so funny! My friend Una sent Callum a conductor’s hat, a paint-your-own-train set, and some treats for me! She’s the best. Callum began painting his train set this afternoon and I love the look of concentration on his face. And notice his toy train peeking at him out the side. He’s never without a train!

Katie just finished her first year of middle school and she got the citizenship award! She totally deserved it. Katie is kind, thoughtful and empathetic. Her heart is pure gold. I am so proud of her. She’s my favourite right now. 😉

Does that bird on the wall in the background freak anyone else out? So weird.

Freddy just finished his first year of high school which is right next to the middle school that Katie goes to, where he went last year. I have no idea what Jason bribed him with to get him out of bed so early, but he came to Katie’s award thing yesterday too (and stuck his face right in front of my phone while I was trying to take a picture). He’s not my favourite for that.

Jake and his girlfriend came too, but the photos I have of them have Jason and his parents in the background and he’d take away my rights to the leftover Purdy’s chocolate Easter bunnies if I posted it. Jason is my ex-husband, and we get along fine. His parents are super nice and they came to support Katie too. It was cool that we could all be together for her!

My mom usually goes to bed at like 2am and gets up at 10 or 11, so for her to set an alarm for 7am is pretty much the equivalent to Jesus. She’s so cute. She brought flowers for Katie and everything!

I also have two step kids who I love so much. But for reasons that I won’t get into on here, my hands are tied as far as photos and such go.

Most of my kids are in school, or busy with work and friends, so that’s why Callum seems like the star of the show (and the new baby too!) but it’s not the case. I have a lot of stars. Sometimes it feels like a universe, especially when everyone needs money and rides. 😉 But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Okay, so who was the favourite in your house? Did it shift around? Why or why not?


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  • Megan @ Meg Go Run June 28, 2017, 9:21 pm

    Awww congrats, Katie!! I’m glad she got her well deserved award and that everyone came out to support her. Sometimes I think my little brother is the favorite because he made my parents grandparents three times over, buuuuut he always asks my dad to come to his house to help him with stuff lol. I think I’ve asked for house help twice in the past 9 yrs so… I win!!!!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 29, 2017, 6:38 am

      Did you show your parents what you did to the house yesterday? They’d be so proud!!!

      • Megan @ Meg Go Run June 29, 2017, 7:02 am

        I did not but I did call my mom for help while I was at Lowes- I needed to know what kind of plant to get for the front stoop. That’s the kind of stuff I call home about, questions needing to be answered! Although, we need a new screen door and I am wondering if my dad would install it for us because I have no idea how to do it, neither does Paul, and I am pretty sure we will get into a fight if we have to do it together.

        • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 29, 2017, 8:49 pm

          I’d have to ask my mom what kind of plant to get too! What kind did she say?

          • Megan @ Meg Go Run June 30, 2017, 6:15 pm

            Anything that likes the sun. 🙂 I got something… I forget what’s it’s called!

  • Lisa @ Mile by Mile June 29, 2017, 1:59 am

    I was a tough teenager but as the oldest child I got to be the favorite for a while. My parents were ones that would have never admitted that they had a favorite. Congrats to Katie on her award! How awesome that everyone could be there for her.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 29, 2017, 6:38 am

      I can NOT imagine you as a tough teenager! But the teen years are like some sort of takeover or possession or something, where we all become these monsters.

  • Susie @ Suzlyfe June 29, 2017, 4:45 am

    Congrats to Katie! And to Freddy for getting up (that is rough for teens lol). I am my mom’s special child. Favorite is a loaded descriptor. I am her special child.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 29, 2017, 6:36 am

      Awe. Yeah you two have an incredible relationship! <3

  • Una June 29, 2017, 5:51 am

    I love the look of focus on Callum’s face!!

    My sister was the favourite growing up, and for the better part of our 20s. I was a disappointment because I had all this potential and zero desire to do anything with it, except move away from everyone. I never did what I was expected to, and always fell just a bit short of being first and best.

    Doesn’t that make me sound like I was rebellious and problematic? I had a 3.8 GPA in high school, and was on student council, yearbook, the annual theatre production and choir. I didn’t go out, didn’t get into trouble, didn’t date, smoke, swear or drink! Conditional love is a bitch. No wonder I was so angry.

    Since getting my shit together, getting married to a man that my mother adores and having the first grandchild, I was the favourite. Now, it’s clearly Olivia.

    Damn, you make some good looking kids! Congrats Katie!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 29, 2017, 6:36 am

      A 3.8?!?! Holy SHIT! And yeah… grandkids tend to bring the favourite metre up a notch or two. 😉 Plus, Olivia is a gem.

      • Una June 30, 2017, 8:06 pm

        Guuurrrrl, I was a super nerd in high school!

        Olivia is my favourite! ?

  • Laura @ This Runner's Recipes June 29, 2017, 2:20 pm

    Congrats to Katie! If I’m able to have kids, that’s the type of child I want to raise – a compassionate one. You raised her well!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 29, 2017, 8:46 pm

      Yeah–my kids are all compassionate. I think we all *feel* everything a lot more than other people. Maybe a sensory processing issue or something? So because things feel intense/uncomfortable for us, we tend to really feel for others as well. It’s interesting though, because empathy doesn’t automatically translate into kindness. Sometimes our hearts break for others and we turn inward *too* much. We went to the lake today and we sat around and I listened to my oldest boys talk about what kind of kids they want one day. They agreed that they want them to be sensitive, but not sensitive about everything, just the right things. Whatever the *right* things are, eh? 😉 I stayed quiet and just listened. <3

      • Una June 30, 2017, 8:05 pm

        I love that your boys were so thoughtful in discussing this. ❤️

  • Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets June 30, 2017, 7:21 am

    Congratulations Katie. Way to go. I love the empathetic, kind kids. My niece is like that and she warms the cockles of my heart.

    The bird is freaky. Didn’t they ever see a Hitchcock film? Stuff of nightmares.

    I was the favorite, although they’d never admit it.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2017, 3:45 pm

      Is your niece the one in the tbt photo you had on Instagram?

  • Ana June 30, 2017, 1:34 pm

    Congratulations to Katie! she is awesome!!

    My mom straight out told me that I’m not the favorite, but the one she has to worry about the least. I guess that is a compliment to me!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com June 30, 2017, 3:44 pm

      Ohhhhh… INTERESTING! Your mom probably makes a good point! And hell yeah–I’d take that as a compliment for SURE.

  • San July 6, 2017, 4:43 pm

    It must be so cool to have kids in such different stages of lives… 🙂 of course, in the end they’re all your favorites, am I right? <3

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