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I’m sitting here at my desk, my binder spilling out to my left, my wine spilling out to my right, and my book-in-progress on the MacBook in front of me. And? I’m kind of blown away, actually! I’m having a bit of a moment! Because of all the sub-categories I’ve got going on within my book, you’d think that the beefiest ones would be “Divorce” and “Running.” Or even “Parenting” or “Love” for godssake. But do you know which theme I keep cutting, pasting, and dumping stories into? “Human Connection.”

I swear to you, when I started this project, I thought it was going to be all about grace. Grace first with topics like divorce and parenting feeding into it. But here I am, and I sense an even bigger theme. Our sole purpose, our reason for living: Human Connection.

When I was into the whole Christian lifestyle, you know, like a little badass sheep with a badass bleep, following the herd rather than the word (HOW DO I NOT GET PAID FOR THIS SHIT), I’d stomp my right foot, jut my chin out and tell nobody who would listen that the reason for my existence is to bring everyone to Jesus. Fast forward years later, and this blog has taught me that people care more about my day-to-day grind than anything else, really; you guys want to connect with me. You want to see me flailing around like a drowning racoon, because that’s how you feel sometimes. And it feels way better to be a part of something rather than apart from something.

What keeps us pressing forward is knowing that we’re not alone. Whether we’re in the muddy waters of new parenthood, tumultuous riverbeds of divorce, or feeling the whiplash of being tossed onto the beach by a breaker, all we have to do is stick out a limb and no doubt, we will brush up against someone in the same spot. Hopefully someone with a strong resemblance to Hugh Jackman or Chris Farley. But if not, it will still be someone, and that someone will need your limb too.


xo Suzy

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  • Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home December 15, 2016, 2:55 pm

    Oooh, I brushed up against Chris Farley–or should I see he brushed up against me with his teeth on my ass! We were college coeds at Marquette and he and his buddies were ‘muff’ diving. I had a bruise for days after that. who knew he’d become famous!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com December 15, 2016, 6:39 pm

      I recall you telling me this story once before, and now I feel like you’re rubbing it in my face. I’m trying super hard to not be insanely jealous but I am quickly running out of kindness. 😉

  • Megan @ Meg Go Run December 15, 2016, 5:35 pm

    Yup, we all wanna connect! Wendy, every time you tell that Chris Farley story I think about how I would have punched him in the effing face if he did that to me!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com December 15, 2016, 6:38 pm

      Nope, not me. If Chris Farley bit my ass, I’d take photos, frame them and hang them all over our house. I’d circle the spot with permanent marker every morning and night.

  • Susie @ SuzLyfe December 16, 2016, 3:42 am

    One of the reasons that depression and anxiety has such a great effect on us is that, during the times that those monsters hit, you feel that you are alone. That feeling of being alone in the world, in the universe, is what drives people over the edge.
    It is why solitary confinement is used as torture.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com December 16, 2016, 8:56 am

      YES. Okay so where did I read this?…. I think in Eric Fromm’s “The Art of Love” he talks about how the root of all anxiety is separateness. Yes! That’s it. TOTALLY TRUE. Not rocket science, but it’s good to be reminded of this concept once in a while.

  • Ana December 16, 2016, 7:44 am

    Yes! We do crave human connection! all the time! My sister says that her favorite thing of spending time with my son is just holing his hand and hugging him all the time. And that feels so right!


    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com December 16, 2016, 8:55 am

      Awe, I love that. Your sister sounds amazing. She’s got a good thing going on.

  • Christina @ The Athletarian December 16, 2016, 7:49 am

    I love you! And yes, you nailed it. I love hearing about the day-to-day stuff. It makes me feel like I KNOW you and then when I see you in real life, we hug like we’ve been friends forever.


    Your blog is one of my favourites because you keep it real and do a great job at connecting with your readers. Thank you!

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com December 16, 2016, 8:54 am

      That was pretty cool that I got to hug you in real life. You’re totally famous. Are you going to rig the Sears giveaway for me so I can win the blender?

  • Gretchen December 16, 2016, 12:47 pm

    I have to say that whenever I first met you, I just felt an instant connection to you and I could tell that you were someone who actually LISTENED when I talked, and when you asked a question you wanted to know the answer. You seem like the kind of person who doesn’t just ask “how are you” to be nice, you actually want to know how I’m doing. You’re amazing.

  • Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets December 17, 2016, 7:57 am

    I feel like this line: “muddy waters of new parenthood” was for me.

    Yesterday my waters were muddy. This morning, they are crystal blue with a touch of shine. By this afternoon, they may be muddy again, but I’ll take my moment this morning.

    • suzy.suzyheather@gmail.com December 17, 2016, 9:33 pm

      Your face may have crossed my mind while I typed that particular line…..

  • San December 19, 2016, 10:08 am

    Ah yes, it’s all worth it, because we know we’re not alone… this makes life so much easier.

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